Decluttering is a bit like giving up smoking, taking up exercise or trying to lose weight. We all know we need to do it but it’s just not going to happen unless we want to do it. There is absolutely no point looking around your house and thinking “I must get rid of some stuff” unless you really have a burning desire to do so. I gave up smoking over 20 years ago after various futile attempts, when I knew I was only trying to give up because I ought to not because I wanted to. Fortunately I had that eureka moement and really wanted to kick the habit. I managed it quite quickly, less than a month of patches and am now one of those holier than thou ex-smokers 🙂
I have been decluttering for years. I regularly took bags and boxes to the charity shop, various things to the skip and put quite a bit on Freegle. But as fast as I was taking things out I was happily bringing more things in. I wasn’t decluttering, I was merely tidying up in order to bring in some more clutter. I was a frightfully organised clutterbug. I knew where everything was and regularly sorted out cupboards and drawers. I had to. There was so much in them!
The decluttering eureka moment for me was standing in the Gin Gan, watching the mud and water pour under the door and feeling completely helpless as there was so much stuff to move that I didn’t know where to begin. Suddenly I wanted all that rubbish out of my house and I wanted it out now. Clearly “now” wasn’t going to happen, but over the course of the year it has. I imagine if you turned up at my doorstep you would be shocked to see how much stuff we still have. I am not yet a fully signed up minimalist, but we have come a very, very long way. That would not have been possible if we didn’t want to do it.
You have to find your own reason to want to reduce the amount of stuff in your house. Not the reason that you think you ought to have. For example “we want to move house”, that is a plausible and common reason to declutter, but it rarely hits your heart. A practical reason is better than none, but it will never be as powerful as an emotional reason. For example, a secondary reason that only came to me several months into our clearout was that I didn’t want to be 80 and living in a house like my mother. She and my stepfather live in a large 5 story house. There are only the two of them and they had planned to move many years ago. Now it is too late, there is absolutely no way they could clear that house, they no longer have the will or the strength. It is packed to the gunnels. Some things are beautiful, some are essential and some hold great sentimental value. Most is rubbish.
Find your reason and you will enjoy the process as well as the result.
I would never have managed this if I hadn’t wanted to do it, and this was just the beginning 🙂